My oldest child has just turned seven years old. It seems like just a matter of minutes since I was a new dad, clueless and scared out of my wits, yet MM is well on the way to double figures.
As was the case in previous years, our daughter wanted a party this time round. We booked a local soft play area suitable for slightly older kids – think less ball pools but more trampolines and other bouncy stuff – and those in attendance weren’t disappointed.
Our one issue was numbers. With a limit at the venue of 25 kids, we had our work cut out. As well as our three other children, we had to consider their cousins, our friends’ little ones, and of course, MM’s classmates from school.
This last group posed a dilemma. When we asked MM if she was inviting the whole class, she wasn’t keen on the idea. Instead, she wanted to handpick who was coming and who wasn’t.
On one hand we understood where she was coming from – after all, who wants to invite someone they don’t like to a party. Then our opinions, rightly or wrongly, come into play. If there are any parents or kids who we don’t like, we’re hardly going to go out of our way to include them in our daughter’s big day.
However it’s not that simple. When the invitations are handed out at school, it’s normally done by the teacher. Imagine the excitement in a class of 25 pupils, where most of those present have been asked to a party – at our kids’ school they often come running out at home time, with the pieces of paper still in their hands. Contrast that image with the feelings of a handful of kids if they are left out, excluded while most of their peers are included. No child deserves that.
Therefore, everyone in MM’s class was invited. As it turned out, one or two couldn’t make it and others just didn’t come. However, the friends she did want there all showed up and a good time was had by all. We’re glad MM made what we believe, is the right decision – she ensured nobody felt left out.
We only wish that was all of the kids birthday’s over with for the year, but alas, no – in just a few weeks the twins turn four.